I wonder if Christian wives are generally unable, or just summarily unwilling to see their husbands' situation from his own point of view.
The Word of God has not charged the wife with the responsibility of providing for her family, saying that she is worse than an unbeliever if she fails or lacks diligence. Wives don't wake up each morning with that burden placed upon them by God Almighty.
God has not said to them, "Love your husband, as Christ Loved the church, laying down His life for him."
Is your husband good?
"Well, perhaps he is," you might answer, "but we all know that only God is good. Even Jesus admitted that."
Wives: Out of all the personality types out there, you are married to one or the other of the following:
… Then the Lord God made the rib He had taken from the man into a woman and brought her to the man. And the man said:
This one, at last, is bone of my bone
and flesh of my flesh;
this one will be called “woman,”
for she was taken from man.
This is why a man leaves his father and mother and bonds with his wife, and they become one flesh. Both the man and his wife were naked, yet felt no shame.
—Genesis 2:22-25 HCSB
Sometimes I complain.
Sometimes I just feel sorry for myself.
Sometimes I am so self-absorbed, so self-centered, so preoccupied with myself and my circumstance that I loose sight of what's important.
What's important? In the grand scheme of things, in view of God's great plan, in view of eternity, what's important today, in my relatively meager, temporary life? Only after acquiring a grasp on what's important, versus what's not important—only then am I able to discern God's blessings that I have received, as well as those for which I should rightly hope.
Dear Reader: This article is not meant to be a universal statement of "the difference between men and women," or anything like that. This is not a global proclamation regarding the problems in all marriages. I offer it simply as food for thought. It is up to you, the reader, to determine where, if anywhere, its applicability lies within the context of your marriage. That being said, I would like to challenge wives with this: IF you are married to Mike or Rob, then are you Doris, or are you Susan?
One man said it like this:
"Every day, I have this choice to make. Every single day, and it doesn't ever go away. Every day, I must choose to view my life and my accomplishments either one of two ways:
What is love?
The poets have never stopped contemplating it. Song writers write, singers sing, actors act… they write about love, they sing about love, they portray love as best they can. But mankind still cannot understand its depths.
Philosophers habitually avoid the subject, preferring topics such as good versus evil, morality, existentialism, and politics. They methodically dissect society and man, cutting both into bite-sized pieces for analysis, then reconstructing them in an attempt to achieve some level of cohesiveness in their design or description.
Lately, I often find myself at work much later than I ought to be. I should be at home with my family, but instead I find myself here at work.
So here's how it went with me:
Got married one day, thinking, "Hey, this is grrrrreeeaaat! I'll never be alone again."